Narcissistic People Isolate Their Partners

Summary: Formed from a childhood perception and childhood experiences - extending the childhood with more control through insecurity.

This pathway is very damaging long-term for the balanced partner, who will feel suppressed by their partner's personality disorder and masked insecurities.

The abuse will happen behind closed doors over a long period of time—passive-aggressive, silent treatment, threatening divorce for ongoing trivial matters, chip and poking and justifying a closed-off world or facade. The child inside the disruptor continues with what was taught in the first 18-21 years.

With a covert narcissist, their partner may be pulled down, and blame shifted and manipulated behind closed doors. With an overt type, the partner may do secondary roles and not be given opportunities to reach better jobs or careers but still expected to support the disorder and façade that restricts the person—a viscous catch-22 cycle.

In a healthy relationship, both partners grow, change, develop, and build a greater bond by complementing each other's needs and abilities, focusing on both partner’s achievements and without the need to chip, poke, pull down, or control attention or dynamics.

Success is seen in the partnership as well as their separate needs and goals, and both can be achieved with combined strategies and new levels of shared education. Two flexible thinking minds are a working combo, not a fixed and fluid or two fixed perceptions.

“Being vulnerable in love is very different from being insecure.”

The disorder may claim that the biased culture must be maintained with control without triggers or growth. Anyone prevented from taking risks, trying new ideas, reaching for something new, learning new skills, and living freely while keeping responsibility - could be experiencing a restricted life that will affect their mental health over time.

Another subject not used for story tropes that often but can be seen in films such as Misery. A partner may ‘just go along’ with the insecurity and see it as short-term.

If professional help is ignored or disregarded, there may only be a few options left to break the facade: identifying what childhood did to the affected adult and the roles they observed while growing up, or leaving and going to NO CONTACT as a life will be taken down over time.

To clarify, what is ‘unhealthy for one might be very unhealthy for two’ when the balanced person has a fully functioning mind in a restricted life.