Narcissists Overplay Their Hand

Summary: This is the end of the false self-construct hiding in plain sight, trying to control other people’s perceptions and best interests. Don’t forget empathy and truth bias… like dolls, objects they assume have purpose through the grandiose narcissistic lens. How is it done? (while they do it, document everything, join the dots, and observe the full timeline; the hand has been overplayed a number of times.)

Study NO CONTACT. It will be needed to avoid toxic third-party abuse and D.A.R.V.O. always going too far. Parents, siblings, work, neighbours: Once educated, you can spend your time and offer empathy wisely. It is up to them to gain insight. The trouble is, they cannot do it. Why is that? Passive-aggressive or aggressive, no accountability, unable to take feedback; why is that? Questions: are your good friends when they overreact… the mask will slip.

The simple answer is that they expose themselves to educated witnesses and observers, those who live with a moral core and don’t take anything at face value. It is only a matter of time… they get greedy and use or abuse other people's children or their own for something to serve their issues. Or assume an adult cannot seem like the chosen few. The big red flag, which is more of the same abuse and coverup… triangluation, more on that later. Watch their hand first while they hold their breath, putting on a brave (grandiose face) or professional victim card to get something no matter the cost.

Shorts:

Richard Grannon: Eventually, they overplay their hand

The Narcissist’s biggest weakness

“They just want more, at any expense.”

At the workplace, the charm isn’t always on call, the deflections, bypass, stealing ideas, making statements that never had any truth… the detachment and fantasy issues put the assumed scam and hand to close the fire. Someone somewhere will hold court to trigger ‘fear of exposure’ to stop a coverup, deception, emotional or any kind of abuse.

They could be blameshifting to re-position guilt away one too many times, but not since the effect it has on others rather than thinking ‘that worked again’. (study the confessions on Youtube.)

The research kind of stops here, like the actions of an abusive, deceptive person with a ‘fit the narrative’ agenda. They can’t see the patterned behavoier, old habits die hard, the abuse cycle and narsstic feed needs validation, it happens because the shouldn’t be sceeming with detachment. As Dr Grande states, “How would they know?” They see nothing wrong, feel nothing wrong, only what they want.” Over to everyone else… Why do they hire other detached, deceptive people to extend the abuse to cover up abuse?

Simple, they have deep-rooted issues from pushing away the actioned shame and a need for control over the situation they have created; they have always needed a dark level of control to survive in the adult world, trying to hide at the expense of others, never able to go deep and be accountable, only opportunistic in the short terms.

Their debts, credit cards, overdrafts, and past experiences have been assessed with a different view of situations…. bias that event exposes itself… they just want more. Any trying to cover up abuse with third-party abuse that has a short-lived sell-by date following a scandal. So why do they do it? It is all they know, trying to hide, so they hate exposure… the victim will be blamed because they are the first target and can’t figure out why a target should not take it for them. Delusional abuse. The personality disorder feeds itself until it can’t stop the feed of others. Spot a drained person, and you can spot the narcissist trying to justify something in a strange, biased way. Malignant, intentional.

All people with psychopathy are narcissistic, but not all narcissistic people have sympathy. It is the development years that pull the trigger more than anything; genetics change matters, but see the conditioning they want others to go along with as a key indicator in the present. Generation deception, conditioning or abuse never helps; pay attention to the justification; it exposes the bad role modelling now seen as a carbon copy. Going one way or the other, don’t go the wrong way with a person who justifies deception and an abuse cycle to normalise; they require help instead of overplaying their hand and trying to cover up with their own plans re0postioned. The lowest form of emotional abuse… triangulation is right there.

It is D.A.R.V.O. trying to be the real victim they are creating; imagine the mind of someone who thinks that is a good idea… not a real connection with anyone or any situation other than a biased agenda to keep the shame away. What do they do for the real victim of the work… the feedback states that as long as they have their coverup, that is all they want. Until they overplay their hand… then they want to hide behind something… triangulation, which is an overplay of their hand, too many people will get involved beyond their chosen few while they sit back and watch. A coward hides behind people and abuses behind closed doors; they also want to trick and blame shift as accountability and shame is too much for one; a life not processed with accountability requires a lot of hiding. Never accept, not even for one second, there will be a slew of evidence hidden behind a deceptive nature; it’s never their first rodeo… Protect yourself with education.

Sign off: An abuser loses their target, supply, a point of reference to allow the lies to be ok, assuming ‘they can’t see me’ the reaction, panic and fear of exposure is closure, the smear is the confession, a mirrored image of their actions… because it is their actions always blameshifting away with a biased justification and detachment. Get it out in the open, get it exposed, and get on with your life with dealing with a deceptive person who has serious issues.. the truth and facts they try to deny with gaslighting… they are left with the shame and memory that will eat them alive… unless it is something 4lse and they won’t feel anything… the sun is shining, go find it it, connect on a deep level with the right tribe and people, let go, the weight, trauma bond and deceptive nature are just not worth it. Never allow a person to put their shame and guilt on you; hand it back.

How do you spot a narcissist on top of the obvious primary evidence full of deception, charm, abuse of various forms (they love mind games because why?), fraudulent actions with opportunity, filter it out, and panic blameshift to avoid accountability? They create secondary evidence, they cannot change, they cannot process the self as they don’t have one, so they can’t understand how they have come to be found out or what they have done is something wrong. Fascinating. But they do fear exposure and shame, so they try to avoid the false self-construct of harm because why? And avoid growing up beyond age eight in an emotional way happens because why?

Unhealthy comparison, gaslighting, smear and deception allow a child's mind to hide a little longer but then has serious trouble not being exposed in the later years… they overplay their hand with the same old habits children do, try and cover it up and point somewhere else. Empathy will always do one thing; zero empathy will always do something else… Malignant narcissism is toxic; the mirror they use is the reality mirror that shows who they are behind the mask, truth and fact, deeply scared of it… cowardly scared. What do pathological liars do when they need to lie? Use another lie to cover up the last one, the whole life is a lie, no need to take part in that, the sun is shining, go find some nature and autheticisty to have longevity.

Do be careful; there is always more than one narcissist needing to feel being a part of something, a double drain like the doubling down, mind games, emotional deception behind closed doors, child’s play, silly gossip and flawed smear that point the finger points back at them (noticed how narcs point a finger, never processing the truth or details correctly, body language research, the mind acts as it thinks, you can’t wait for that to grow up)… You may say, “You are exposed for overplaying your hand without a second thought and that your second narrative really wasn’t worth hiding in the first place.” And it isn’t, its game, nothing else, no depth, only bias. For more in-depth review, look at the domestic abuse page, it will offer insight to why something is missing.